What if I say, I already do?
"Why do most people seem to fall for a friend at one point or another?
It is because we see a great person. Someone who knows us inside and out, someone who has been there when we were down, someone who knows who makes us laugh and what makes us cry, someone who cares.
We see the perfect someone in a friend but what we don't see is that as soon as we take the next step, they will turn into someone we never knew at all."
My girl bestfriend text messaged me this and I was disturbed by the whole thought. The quotation was true, in my opinion. Unless, the relationship isn't one-sided.
I call the relationship "one-sided" wherein a person falls for a friend and gets no response, at all. It is quite tragic for not only the love diminishes, but also the friendship itself. There aren't any remedies on how we can resolve it. That is the saddest part.
As the quotation explains, we fall inlove with our friend because we see a GREAT person. One that knows and understands us very well. We feel safe and comfortable with them. But if CAN be dangerous as well. We just have to take note of the limits.
Limits are very significant in a relationship, especially in friendship. So I have formulated a list of how can we prevent the tragic scene of falling for a friend:
1. Always go out in groups. Well, it’s okay to go out IF and ONLY IF it’s for academic and religious purposes.
2. Limit yourself when it comes to texting. Don’t expect him to text you all the time.
3. When he tell s you you are beautiful, don’t ever assume that he likes you. It can possibly mean he’s proud of his friend.
4. Lastly, Do not ever stare at him for too long. It can hurt.
You might probably think, why do I keep on stressing this matter? Well friends, I have been on this situation before and I think I STILL am. I guess I’m just so unlucky when it comes to this. There was this guy whom I really LIKE when we were in first year highschool. We aren’t friends, but we’re classmates. Then the feeling shifted to another person, and we became friends. We became close friends when I was in my junior high days. I started getting attached to him, and then just like that, I stumbled. Resisting the feeling WAS the least effective way to get rid of the feeling. Don’t ever do that. It had gotten worse. But when I finally had the guts to tell him how I feel. We became bestfriends. He took it maturely, though it was one-sided, I kind of feel good. The feeling shifted again when I became a senior. I was glad it’s over!
NOT.
This time, it was WORSE. For almost two years, I was feeling shaky and confused. It never occurred to me that I like this particular friend, because I was busy with the one I like. But now, it’s haunting me. Now, I am certain. I like him. No, I love him. And it hurts because I can’t tell him. There’s thunder-lighting scene going on in my mind. The thunder rumbles and pushes me to tell him, while lightning says wait for the right time and when you feel the light, tell him. I don’t freaking know when the right time is! I may even keep it from him for a lifetime if I have to. I am unsure if, this time, is one-sided. The thunder says, “How can you be so sure if you won’t tell him?”. Thunder must have crushed my mind and spirit by this time.
Will I tell him?
It is because we see a great person. Someone who knows us inside and out, someone who has been there when we were down, someone who knows who makes us laugh and what makes us cry, someone who cares.
We see the perfect someone in a friend but what we don't see is that as soon as we take the next step, they will turn into someone we never knew at all."
My girl bestfriend text messaged me this and I was disturbed by the whole thought. The quotation was true, in my opinion. Unless, the relationship isn't one-sided.
I call the relationship "one-sided" wherein a person falls for a friend and gets no response, at all. It is quite tragic for not only the love diminishes, but also the friendship itself. There aren't any remedies on how we can resolve it. That is the saddest part.
As the quotation explains, we fall inlove with our friend because we see a GREAT person. One that knows and understands us very well. We feel safe and comfortable with them. But if CAN be dangerous as well. We just have to take note of the limits.
Limits are very significant in a relationship, especially in friendship. So I have formulated a list of how can we prevent the tragic scene of falling for a friend:
1. Always go out in groups. Well, it’s okay to go out IF and ONLY IF it’s for academic and religious purposes.
2. Limit yourself when it comes to texting. Don’t expect him to text you all the time.
3. When he tell s you you are beautiful, don’t ever assume that he likes you. It can possibly mean he’s proud of his friend.
4. Lastly, Do not ever stare at him for too long. It can hurt.
You might probably think, why do I keep on stressing this matter? Well friends, I have been on this situation before and I think I STILL am. I guess I’m just so unlucky when it comes to this. There was this guy whom I really LIKE when we were in first year highschool. We aren’t friends, but we’re classmates. Then the feeling shifted to another person, and we became friends. We became close friends when I was in my junior high days. I started getting attached to him, and then just like that, I stumbled. Resisting the feeling WAS the least effective way to get rid of the feeling. Don’t ever do that. It had gotten worse. But when I finally had the guts to tell him how I feel. We became bestfriends. He took it maturely, though it was one-sided, I kind of feel good. The feeling shifted again when I became a senior. I was glad it’s over!
NOT.
This time, it was WORSE. For almost two years, I was feeling shaky and confused. It never occurred to me that I like this particular friend, because I was busy with the one I like. But now, it’s haunting me. Now, I am certain. I like him. No, I love him. And it hurts because I can’t tell him. There’s thunder-lighting scene going on in my mind. The thunder rumbles and pushes me to tell him, while lightning says wait for the right time and when you feel the light, tell him. I don’t freaking know when the right time is! I may even keep it from him for a lifetime if I have to. I am unsure if, this time, is one-sided. The thunder says, “How can you be so sure if you won’t tell him?”. Thunder must have crushed my mind and spirit by this time.
Will I tell him?